I have always been intrigued by the nature of Dominance and submission. There has always been a link between being someone who can hunt and take prey, and knowing that it is because it is my nature to be like that, rather than be prey or even 'let things happen'.
It doesn't matter what sphere I am in; business, social or sensual, I automatically control the interactions I have. Sometimes, I have to accept I will not be that which someone desires, but there is power in knowing such a thing.
What is it that first gave you an understanding of your place in all this?
Also, I think Tops more easily accept their place and are less tormented by doubts. After all, it's so cool and socially approved to strive for the top.
Innate submissives, especially men, often suffer because their inclinations conflict with the usual social role. They deny their nature, try to "cure" themselves, go through internal crises. And either find their place or suffer always.
That's an interesting question - to answer, I'd need to write a dedicated post, maybe more than one. Someday I'll do it.
Dominance/submissiveness are innate, I believe. Most people have a mix of both, but the clear representatives of these poles feel their manifestation in early childhood. Since childhood, I've felt a pull towards power exchange. But at the same time, there was a strong belief that men couldn't submit to women. I became a Dom because it seemed to me that it was the only way to realize my inclinations. But in reality, I was just playing a role, someone else's role.. And more and more, I began to see myself in the "victim's" place. And eventually, I allowed myself to be on the right place. This is in a nutshell, but the journey was long and very painful.