Of all the spiritual practices that I do, the ones I value the most are those that bring me fully into my body.
Of all of the practices that connect me this way, I value sex among the highest.
Of all my spiritual sexual practices, I value BDSM as one of the best.
Yes, I believe that getting tied up and flogged (by someone who cares about me deeply) is one of the most spiritual things I can do.
Sex has been a point of spiritual connection since we first started having sex. In other words: we noticed a very, very long time ago that when two (or more) bodies merge together as agents of the divine, we can touch the universal source from which we came and remember our true creative potential – just for a fleeting moment before we go back to the rest of our lives.
But while that’s the underlying reason we swipe right, it’s rarely the conscious reason.
Lying on top of that underlying reason are other underlying, often unconscious reasons we seek sexual connection. One of the biggies: trying to heal a past emotional wound.
This explains why we find ourselves dating the same kind of person over and over again (even after we swore it would never happen again, read here if you want a new perspective) – we are trying to fill past-tense holes with present-time experiences.
The framework of conscious BDSM gives the opportunity to direct the terms of filling that hole or ask for someone to fill that hole (pun absolutely intended).
